The image on social media versus reality

I have been wondering if some of the social media influencers are putting on an act. They have these images carefully curated so that their viewers will keep on watching them via tik tok or instagram. Now their are those exceptions with those people who keep it real and you can tell they are being authentic and having nothing to hide.

I think people can sense how authentic the person on social media or as a friend or acquaintance. People have “tells” where they can be saying one thing but nonverbally they mean the opposite. You can tell when they are lying to themselves and others. I can vouch for this as I have been known to lie to myself from time to time.

The problem is sometimes you can’t point out these “tells” to the people you either watch or talk to on a weekly basis. Or when you do all you will get is a angry or emotional response, no matter how warranted. The issue though is sometimes you can see that they might be saying everything’s good when it’s really not. This can be seen based on the tone, a sigh, or in some cases just sounding tired.

One example would be if someone asks what’s wrong and they reply “nothing” depending on the tone and nonverbal cues that nothing might actually be something. I have been guilty of doing this way more than I should. This does have me wondering how many encounters people have had when they can tell someone is lying or they are lying to themselves, they just don’t realize it yet. Additionally, how might people respond to these events in which they are lying to themselves or others. Anyone who has experience the situations listed above, I am curious to know your response to others “masking” their true feelings and emotions, or what do you do when your the one putting a show and trying to hide how you really from others?

Xoxo, the multifaceted nerd